Hidden Hurts & Unheard Cries
There are those who suffer blows from others such as criticisms, insults, and slanders and are deeply wounded with painful and devastating hurts. These invisible, emotional injuries are sometimes undetected by family and friends. Every community is full of people with such type injuries. This could describe you. You may be “groaning” because you have been misunderstood, and/or deliberately shunned by a friend, family member, or maybe a co-worker. It becomes an unheard cry within because you are afraid to share it.
Such, “Hidden Hurts and Unheard Cries,” can affect your relationships with family, friends and co-workers. You wonder each day, as the pain becomes more penetrating, and the desire to cry out is more forceful, “HOW DO I HANDLE THIS?” And, it is important to handle it well. Those pressed down hurts, held within, can develop into stress, resentment, bitterness, long held grudges, and other undesirable emotions. As these emotions grow stronger you will become an “angry person.” So how do you handle anger?
“Your anger is a warning signal! Pay attention! You should stop, think, choose, and then act. When you think through a situation first, you will more likely choose to act responsibly. Ask yourself the question, ‘When I get angry, what do I really want?’ Anger is the cue to calm down, gather information, see the big picture, and focus on self control. If you can’t control yourself you will never truly control your environment, at home, with friends and at work.” (Taken from the book Mind Click, by Dr Jeremy Crosby)
But, you want to “Cry out.” That’s good! You may choose to go to a professional counselor, or you may choose to go to a good, godly, friend, whom you trust, and is a good listener. Just getting it out of your “system” will be a great release. “Listen to counsel and accept discipline that you may be wise the rest of your days.” (Proverbs 19:20 ASV)
“Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable and right. Think about things that pure and lovely and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.” (Philippians 4:8 NLT)
“It is wise to direct your anger towards problems - not people; to focus your energies on answers - not excuses. ”