I feel compelled to reflect on my friend, Wil Gardner’s life today. He would have turned 76 years old today. Hard to believe he’s been gone for four months already. I think of my friend often...
Read MoreIt is true that in order to help others through their grief, we need to adequately deal with our own grief issues and with our own “grief history.” “Wow, didn’t realize I have a grief history”…you might be thinking.
Read MoreMy first year as a chaplain at Simmons, I made the effort to be at every funeral I could possibly attend. I think I ended up being apart of 48 or so that first year. I spent a lot of time observing things: the messages being preached, the family dynamics, and words/phrases that I kept hearing.
Read MoreDon’t let anyone take your grief away from you. You deserve it, and you must have it. If you had a broken leg, no one would criticize you for using crutches until it was healed. If you had a major surgery, no one would pressure you to run a marathon the next week. Grief is a major wound. It does not heal overnight. You must have the time and crutches until you heal...
Read MoreWe were promised sufferings. They were part of the program. We were even told, 'Blessed are they that mourn,' and I accept it. I've got nothing that I hadn't bargained for. Of course it is different when the thing happens to oneself, not to others, and in reality, not imagination
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