My husband, Alston, had been in the hospital for two weeks of what would become a 57-day hospitalization. It was an emotional day because we thought we would be to the point of moving into a rehabilitation hospital, but it was not so. I took some time to reflect on the two weeks that had gone by and realized I was struggling with a concept that was somewhat foreign to me...receiving help. A major part of my life had consisted of being in the role of helper and I was very much comfortable with that role. But things change when you’re in a hospital setting and you really do need help.
There is a tension in my life, and maybe in yours too. It battles against my desire to live for God. It is a force that drives me away from trusting in Him at all times and towards relying on myself. It damages relationships, brings out insecurities, drives us to manipulate others, and inevitably governs my ability to have an intimate relationship with God and others.
Last week I said that anger will never completely disappear from our lives this side of heaven, nor should it. There is a time and a place for anger and it will either be our servant or our master. In order for our anger to be our servant, we need to get beyond anger management to anger control. Anger is an emotion, and we do not have direct volitional control over our emotions. We can’t will ourselves to like people we have an emotional hatred for. We can choose to do the loving thing for them even though we don’t like them; but we can’t simply tell ourselves to stop being angry.
One day I am going to die. How’s that for an opening statement? Not a fun thought, no doubt. But it’s a real one. A friend of mine lost a mother over the weekend, and as I have been thinking about her and her family on my drive to Emporia yesterday, I got to thinking about some important things. Things that often only death can get you to think about.
You have heard the expression, “We will just have to disagree, agreeably.” This happens when two are discussing a subject or arguing an issue on which they cannot agree. This happens in different aspects of life such as religious disagreements, political disagreements, or even disagreements on how to do something in the work place...
I recently visited with a gentleman in hospice who, until the moment I walked into the room, I had never met before. This is not uncommon, as we are often called to visit family members who may not have any pastoral support available. I had been informed that he was near death and that he wanted to speak with a chaplain...
I read of a police officer in the state of Utah who, once while on patrol, noticed that his own driver’s license had expired. Embarrassed at having caught himself, he pulled out his ticket book and wrote himself a ticket. He presented it to the judge and the judge fined him. Before leaving the court room the judge asked him why he wrote himself a ticket...
Gratitude as a discipline involves a conscious choice. I can choose to be grateful even when my emotions and feelings are still steeped in hurt and resentment. It is amazing how many occasions present themselves in which I can choose gratitude instead of a complaint...
In this 20-minute session from America's Best Hope 2014, Russ Crosson challenges leaders to examine the WHY behind their leadership. Russ is the CEO of Ron Blue & Co., a national wealth management firm that provides comprehensive financial strategies based on biblical wisdom.
Building a great team is a complex endeavor. It's not as simple as collecting the right skill sets—the human element is actually a more critical factor in long-term performance. A collection of people with varying talents, skills, and perspectives can either clash and crash, or feed off one another's energy to produce incredible results. The Ideal Team Player shows you how to evaluate your prospects and pick the stars that shine brightest together.
Bill Pollard has been a lawyer, a professor, and CEO of one of the nation's largest commercial business, ServiceMaster. He highlights the crucial role that humility plays in leadership. Success often leads to "you're somebody" syndrome, and humility is the only antidote.
“You’re blessed when you’re at the end of your rope. With less of you there is more of God and his rule. You’re blessed when you feel you’ve lost what is most dear to you. Only then can you be embraced by the One most dear to you. You’re blessed when you’re content with just who you are—no more, no less. That’s the moment you find yourselves proud owners of everything that can’t be bought." | Matthew 5:3-5 (MSG)
"To some who were confident of their own righteousness and looked down on everyone else, Jesus told this parable:“Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector.The Pharisee stood by himself and prayed: ‘God, I thank you that I am not like other people—robbers, evildoers, adulterers—or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week and give a tenth of all I get.’“But the tax collector stood at a distance. He would not even look up to heaven, but beat his breast and said, ‘God, have mercy on me, a sinner.’“I tell you that this man, rather than the other, went home justified before God. For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.'" | Luke 18:9-14 (NIV)
"If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and I will forgive their sin and will heal their land." | 2 Chronicles 7:14 (NIV)
"In the same way, you who are younger, submit yourselves to your elders. All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because, 'God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.'" | 1 Peter 5:5 (NIV)
"When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom." | Proverbs 11:2 (NIV)
“Humility is nothing else but a right judgment of ourselves.” | William Law
“Humility is perfect quietness of heart. It is to expect nothing, to wonder at nothing that is done to me, to feel nothing done against me. It is to be at rest when nobody praises me, and when I am blamed or despised. It is to have a blessed home in the Lord, where I can go in and shut the door, and kneel to my Father in secret, and am at peace as in a deep sea of calmness, when all around and above is trouble.” | Andrew Murray
"I long to accomplish a great and noble task, but it is my chief duty to accomplish humble tasks as though they were great and noble." | Helen Keller
"Lord, where we are wrong, make us willing to change; where we are right, make us easy to live with." | Peter Marshall
"Pride makes us artificial and humility makes us real." | Thomas Merton
“Pride must die in you, or nothing of heaven can live in you.” | Andrew Murray
"Do you wish to be great? Then begin by being. Do you desire to construct a vast and lofty fabric? Think first about the foundations of humility. The higher your structure is to be, the deeper must be its foundation." | Augustine
“He who asks is a fool for five minutes, but he who does not ask remains a fool forever.” | Chinese Proverb
"Humility and patience are the surest proofs of the increase of love." | John Wesley
"I know for me, going back to the person I've bad-mouthed or lied to is absolutely humiliating! But isn't it interesting that "humiliating" has the same root word as "humility"? Part of humility is taking responsibility for my sin and asking forgiveness even when it doesn't feel good. God wants to heal and restore your relationships, but it's not easy." | Chip Ingram
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